Critical Engagement with “A Man’s Right to Choose” by Carole Joffe, Jennifer Reich, Danielle Bessett

, and Michael Armato (a small selection of the many engaging, critical responses that I have received)

 

From Professor Carole Joffe, UC Davis

 

Open Letter to Dalton Conley

 

December 11, 2005

 

Dear Dalton Conley,

 

           Most of the responses to your recent New York Times op-ed, “A Man’s Right to Choose, have been eloquently stated philosophical objections to your “bottom line” argument in the op-ed:  “If a father is willing to legally commit to raising a child with no help from the mother he should be able to obtain an injunction against the abortion of the fetus he helped create.”  My perspective is that of a sociologist who has studied the front lines of abortion provision for nearly 30 years. You start off by positioning yourself as a supporter of Roe v Wade, by suggesting that a valid reason to oppose Samuel Alito’s nomination to the Supreme Court is that he might “nibble away” at this decision.  Do you realize that your proposal would do far more than “nibble away” at Roe?  It would create   havoc in this already overregulated and unnecessarily chaotic branch of the health care system!  Your brief acknowledgment, in the op-ed, that implementing your proposal  would be “problematic” hardly does justice to what in fact would occur.

 

        Here are just some of the issues that would doubtless arise with the paternal veto right you propose.  There were have to be machinery for a “judicial bypass”  for those women who needed abortions to protect their lives and health. According to the Council of Scientific Affairs of the AMA,   a first trimester abortion is more than ten times safer, in terms of maternal mortality, than carrying a pregnancy to term.  For a small group of women, continuing with a pregnancy might be life threatening; for others, there might be considerable health risks.  If we have learned anything from the  experience of the  judicial bypass system already in place for teenagers who feel they cannot notify their parents, or (in some states), obtain parental consent for an abortion, it is that this system can be difficult to access and often humiliating.  As the New York Times recently reported, many juvenile court judges across the country (who are elected by voters) are recusing themselves from such assignments,  to avoid engagement with the abortion issue.  When it is  harder to see a judge,  earlier abortions are pushed  into later ones and some are prevented from occurring at all.

 

        Your proposal would also require doctors’ documentation of threats to the life or the health of a pregnant woman.  This of course will add to the cost. And given the extreme politicization of abortion within medical circles, doctors in conservative settings (and it would most likely be the red states that would adopt your proposal, if legally permitted) would likely deny an abortion in all but the most unambiguous cases.  As always in the abortion wars, it would be poor women, mainly those of color, who would have the most difficulties in accessing abortions, even those that are medically desirable; your proposal will only make a bad situation worse.

 

         Twenty five  years of surrogate mothering  in this country shows us other things that could go very wrong in the situation of coerced pregnancy you propose. What happens when   prenatal diagnosis in such a pregnancy reveals severe  fetal anomalies?  Does the father now have the right to change his mind about wanting the child that will result from this pregnancy? Even if he does relent, and frees the woman to choose an abortion, he is subjecting her to a later, and more complex (and considerably more expensive) procedure.  And will the father have the right to monitor the pregnant woman’s behavior during her pregnancy?  Will he obtain further court orders to forbid drug use and alcohol use? If the pregnancy becomes “high risk,” will he ask  a court to  mandate bed rest,  and to  forbid sexual intercourse with others during the pregnancy?  These are issues that have come up­ --often explosively-- in the world of surrogate parenthood, but at least there, the two parties have entered into a contract.  Do you really want to subject women who have not contracted to be surrogates to this kind of control from a man from whom they are now estranged?

 

        Imagine another likely scenario. The father, in the course of a compelled pregnancy,    starts a relationship with another woman, who is hardly enthusiastic about raising a child born in such circumstances.  This “new” woman may convince the father to give up his claims to the ongoing pregnancy and have a child with her! What happens then?  A child born under such sad circumstances--­to a mother who did not want to be pregnant, to a father who has changed his mind because of a new relationship­--will most likely end up in the child welfare system.

 

                The main problem with your proposal, of course, is that it is so utterly unenforceable.  How would abortion clinic staff necessarily know, when a woman presents herself for an abortion, that a man (who may or may not be the actual father of the fetus) is contesting the procedure?  Would all women seeking abortions have to come to the clinic with notarized statements of approval from the alleged progenitor? Would all the men giving such consent be subject to DNA tests?  The fact that this proposal would be unenforceable would not however prevent it from making life miserable for some pregnant women, as well as the abortion providing facilities themselves.  Given the constant litigation that surrounds this field, there would doubtless be numerous lawsuits against abortion providers, for failing to comply with partner consent provisions.

 

         Your op-ed indicates that you are unaware of the considerable efforts to involve men, in appropriate ways, in the abortion process which  have long  been part of  the culture of  abortion provision.. In the course of visiting scores of clinics and private offices, I have been struck by the serious commitment to address the need of male partners.  Many clinics offer counseling to men, either with their partners, or, if requested, without their partners.  Some facilities allow men to accompany women throughout the abortion procedure (assuming the woman agrees),  and take special care to inform men about such matters as post-abortion care for their partners, and the possible  emotional reactions to the procedure that both parties may experience.  One of the national leaders in this effort is Claire Keyes, who has worked as an abortion counselor since 1971 and is now both counselor and director at Allegheny Reproductive Health Center in Pittsburgh.  She has worked with our fellow sociologist, Arthur Shostak, who  many years ago, in his book Men and Abortion, eloquently articulated the claims of men to become incorporated in various ways in the abortion process.   Both she and Art, however, firmly hold to the principle that when there is a dispute between partners over the resolution of an unwanted pregnancy, the pregnant woman is the one who is entitled to make the final decision.  Claire has been trying for some time to launch a website with information about ways to involve  men in the  abortion process.  This would be a resource both for other clinics and private offices that offer abortion, as well as for men whose partners are contemplating abortion.  She has had a hard time raising the cash to launch this effort.  Given your deep interest in this topic, perhaps you wouconsider help funding this effort?.  I am sure she would be delighted to talk to you more about this website. (claire_keyes@yahoo.com).

 

        Finally, I would like to comment on your op-ed as a example of “public sociology gone wrong.”  Like you, I am a passionate believer in public sociology, and think its recent revitalization  is one of the best things that has occurred in our discipline in years.  I commend you for your many writings that are accessible to an audience beyond sociology.  But in the case of this op-ed, I believe you have acted irresponsibly, and have done harm to a cause (legal abortion) in which you profess to believe. . Quite frankly, rather than seeing your op-ed as authentic public sociology, I view it as inappropriate “private sociology.”  Based on your individual experience with a contested pregnancy, you are attempting to intervene in a policy arena that you seemingly know very little about.

 

          I am aware that since this op-ed originally appeared, you have backed off somewhat.  I saw your appearance on Fox last week, where you said you “were only trying to be provocative” and I have seen your partial “clarification” that was posted on the Huffington site.  But surely you realize, as a savvy sociologist, that an op-ed published in the leading newspaper of record in the U.S. (if  not the world) will be read by more people (and reposted more frequently ) than a longer, harder to understand (!) semi- retraction on the Huffington site. It is the original op-ed, not the clarification,  that is now on many prolife and father’s rights websites; it is your op-ed that I can easily visualize being assigned to high school students in parochial schools and so on.  I thus think you need to be held accountable for what you said in the original Times article.

 

        Why do I think this matters? Do I think it likely that your ill-considered proposal actually will come to pass?  Probably not­-I am not sure even a Supreme Court with two George W. Bush appointees would go as far as you advocate.  But, I do think-- in the classical fashion of radical ideas making somewhat less radical ones appear reasonable­that you have helped soften opposition to Alito, who “only” advocates spousal notification.  You  have also helped revive  the possibilities of partner notification as an antiabortion strategy. With all due respect, I believe one  reason your op-ed continues to generate  so much buzz is not only because of what it said­but who said it.  Various antiabortion leaders and father’s rights spokesmen for years have said similar things about male prerogatives in abortion. But you, as a known progressive, in an elite East Coast university, in a field known for its liberalism, offer a  kind of legitimacy (and publicity)  to these arguments that longstanding partisans can’t bring.  Again meaning no disrespect, why do you think that Fox, the most conservative station on cable TV, invited you to appear,  two days after the op-ed was published?

 

        Conversely, why do you think that your op-ed is causing such anguish within the community of abortion providers?   This group knows the real world consequences of ill thought out policy in the realm of reproductive services. When asked by pollsters, most Americans favor spousal notification, as they do parental notification for teens. But most teens already inform their parents of plans to have an abortion, as most women tell their male partners.   The problem is with the minority of teens who cannot tell their parents, out of  a fear of violence and of being thrown out of the house.   For many in this country, especially the young and the poor, we are already in a “post-Roe” environment; abortion is so hard to access, and culturally so stigmatized, that we are beginning to see tragedies similar to the pre-Roe era.  In two recent cases which both involved unwanted pregnancies to teenage couples, the young men induced stillbirths in their girlfriends, one by stomping on her stomach, the other by striking her belly with a baseball bat.  One of these teenagers, a Latino from Texas,  is now serving a life sentence in prison for fetal homicide. Needless to say, these cases occurred in states with parental notification laws.  I have no doubts whatsoever that if partner notification (let alone your more extreme  proposal of partner consent) were to be imposed, we would have similar tragic cases where desperate women would attempt to take matters in their own hands.

 

        In closing, I would suggest to you that the luxury and privilege you and I have, as college professors, to try out provocative ideas and “thought experiments” in the classroom take on a quite different character  when we venture into the print media, especially in an internet age.  I hope you will use your many media contacts to disavow the idea that men should be able to compel a woman to carry  a pregnancy to term.

 

        I look forward to your response to this letter.

 

Sincerely,

Carole Joffe

Professor of Sociology, U. of California, Davis

 

From Jennifer Reich, Assistant Professor of Sociology at the University of Denver:

 

I had not planned on writing, but decided that this last essay is too

frustrating not to comment on.

 

Since reading Conley's latest essay this morning, I have heard the Monty

Python tune "Every Sperm is Sacred" running through my head. This discussion

has been incredible, in part because Conley, who has as far as I know, has

not focused squarely on gender in his work, is providing what one colleague

of mine called "an articulate recitation of what my undergraduate men argue

in class...its not fair." Sadly, he doesn't engage the voluminous

scholarship or work of respected scholars who have traveled this very road.

 

Where I am willing to engage Conley--which is actually engaging Judith

Lorber's question from last week-- is around child support, which Conley

reduces to "voluntary fatherhood." What Conley alludes to in discussing that

"Alito didn't go far enough" on spousal notification is the expectations for

unmarried fathers (the rights and responsibilities of married fathers have

always been more clearly defined). In my own research on the child welfare

system, I found that whereas expectations of legal fatherhood (most

particularly financial support) once established are almost impossible to

shake for most men, men considered to be poor fathers whose children are in

the child protective services system find it difficult to claim fatherhood

and establish rights. In both cases, state policies on unwed fathers serve

state interests: to get kids off public support (be it welfare, education,

or foster care). The structural argument most grotesquely missing is a

consideration of how parenthood is privatized with little public support for

raising children. If children received what they needed from public support,

men should in fact be free to renounce their paternity post-conception

pre-birth. (This has all sorts of problems about people changing their mind

following a pre-sex or post-pregnancy contract, as people's feelings often

change in all directions.) I remain uncomfortable with the current child

support system as it--like Conley-- reduces parenthood to genetics. However,

I am more uncomfortable with children whose basic necessities are unmet. If

Conley really wants to argue for fairness in voluntary fatherhood, perhaps

he should start by advocating a public system of family support.

 

Conley dismisses biological essentialism and then employs it. A man might

want to fetus to be carried to term because it is his genetically. He is

incorrect as well in characterizing abortion as resulting in all cases to

avoid "unwanted children." Many are to avoid unwanted pregnancies which

carry physical, economic, and social sanctions. Some are for wanted children

but unwanted poverty. Some are chosen by women who want children but don't

want that potential father to remain in their lives. Again, engaging

scholarship beyond a Slate.com column could go a long way.

 

As a final point, I would have been more interested in hearing Conley's

ruminations on his actual areas of knowledge, namely siblings and resource

issues. Presumably, had he successfully persuaded his ex-girlfriend to

ignore not being ready or "minor medical concerns" to continue the

pregnancy, this would have presumably altered his current children's lives.

Is he really suggesting that his core argument about birth order and numbers

of children are irrelevant when one wants a fetus in a fledgling

relationship? I am sad that Conley strayed so far outside his knowledge-base

but glad it has given us an opportunity for such an exchange.

 

Best,

Jennifer

 

Jennifer A. Reich

Assistant Professor

Department of Sociology and Criminology

University of Denver

2000 E. Asbury Avenue

Denver CO 80208

(303) 871-2066

 

 

Some thoughts about the science and social organization of  pregnancy and “a man’s right to choose”…

Danielle Bessett

Ph.D. Candidate, New York University

Visiting Instructor, Mount Holyoke College

 

December 10, 2005
 
With the gender group poised to discuss men's rights in pregnancy on Friday, I thought I might share a few informational points about the science and social organization of pregnancy and birth that raise questions related to the group's topic of discussion.
 
Foremost is the question of presumed biological paternity.  Most challenges to paternity are typically handled through a post-natal DNA test. This post-natal procedure is also used by state officials mandated to establish paternity for women who seek welfare benefits (whether or not she would “choose” for her sexual partner(s) to
 be aware of the resulting pregnancy); for collection of child support in cases where fathers have taken on, and then abandoned, responsibility for a child; and for episodes of Jerry Springer.  Typically, children produced in legally-certified marriages (which usually include “common law” marriages where they are recognized by state law) are presumed to be the product of the legally-wed parties until the proven otherwise, and we can imagine that they might be treated in such a way in matters related to abortion.  But, interestingly, none of the three anecdotal accounts provided by Dalton and Robert took place within marriage, and thus, for men to have any ability to control the outcome of the
insemination, paternity would not be presumed, but would have to be established.  (Otherwise, couldn't women simply tell the abortion arbiter that another man was likely to be the father?)  What would be involved in such an event?
 
Currently, the only way to establish paternity prenatally is for a woman to undergo chorionic villus sampling (CVS) between 10-12 weeks or amniocentesis (otherwise known to people as “the test with the big needle”) between 15-18 weeks.  Pregnancy loss or injury to the fetus may result from either of these tests in a small fraction of pregnancies, with CVS being slightly riskier (between 1-2% higher chance of miscarriage than amnio, depending on the CVS procedure and circumstances, and more likely to result in missing fetal limbs/digits).  However, the time frame for an amnio falls within a
few weeks of the window for a medically uncomplicated safe and legal abortion.  Complications of both tests may also result in prescriptions of total or partial bedrest for the woman.  Hemorrhage from a perforation of the placenta or vessels of umbilical cord
as a result of transabdominal CVS or amniocentesis is also a very small possibility.  While DNA testing is indeed “readily available,” these prenatal tests are typically recommended only with medical indications (which, though variably constructed, are nonetheless motivated by forces other than the “property rights” paradigm) because of the
risks they pose.  At present, women usually bear the legal right to accept or refuse these tests during their pregnancies, despite the wishes of their husbands or partners, healthcare providers, or insurers.  While always contested, the ethical ideal of a woman’s right to accept or refuse testing emerges from a long tradition of misuse of mandated tests in a rather short history of genetic testing.
 
However, a contested claim to paternity in a situation such as Dalton proposes would likely require one of the two tests in order to establish that the male party indeed had some “say” over the outcome of the pregnancy, representing a fundamental break in the hard-won precedent of women’s ability to control the tests which are performed on or quite literally through their bodies.  Wouldn't this open a dangerous door, for – once opened to mandated prenatal testing to determine paternity – why should other parties with financial interests in the fetus (including physicians, public health authorities, health insurance companies, etc.) not seek testing to insure the “health” of all newborn babies and make coverage contingent on such tests, thereby requiring women to assume all financial risk for any so-called “defective” fetuses they may choose to carry to term?  Could not the same principle Dalton articulates, pay=say, be applied by the government or private insurers who often bear the financial burden of individual’s choices? (And here we must acknowledge the work of another of our esteemed NYU scholars, Troy Duster, among others.)  
 
In the event that prenatal tests are not required to establish paternity, would fathers be required to raise the child they insisted be born were it found not to be his biological child after birth? If not, what would be the fate of such a child? 
 
Assuming paternity and subsequent rights to the child are established, other fundamental problems arise.  Leaving aside the issue of how we might assess men’s motives in insisting women maintain a pregnancy in the first place, how does a “property rights” perspective influence how much control men would be able to exert over “their” pregnancies?   Though heavily debated in its specifics, current science links some  maternal behaviors to some pregnancy outcomes, and, increasingly, women are prosecuted for problems in the fetus they are thought to cause with their behavior.  Some might suggest that if men are to bear the burden of raising a child alone, they should also have some say as to its “quality.”  Would fathers be able to control fetal exposure to the effects of smoking, drugs, alcohol, mercury, environmental toxins, foods with high fat and sugar content?  How?  Would they be able to overrule a woman’s judgment about the method of birth that is right for her, the frequency and extent of her exercise (up to and icluding decisions about bedrest), and medical interventions during the pregnancy (up to and including fetal surgery)?  If they do so, how does this complicate the “separateness” of women and fetuses that underlies a father’s claim to the fetus itself?
 
Of course, bad things do happen to good people, and there is some etiological uncertainty in many, if not the majority, of cases of fetal disability and death.  Sadly, an estimated third of all pregnancies end in miscarriage.  This is relevant not only because one can imagine how women would be held under suspicion should a pregnancy end spontaneously under the circumstances of an injunction (see above), but, equally importantly, because it illustrates that pregnancies end for all kinds of reasons outside of the control of either parent. 
 
Finally, while I endorse the view that pregnancy and birth are natural and safe processes for most women, a variety of factors – including the organization of healthcare and obstetrics -- have resulted in a situation where close to 400 American women are known to die each year from pregnancy, birth, and post-natal complications.  The CDC has  acknowledged that the number of actual deaths are underreported and may exceed 1,000 women per year.  (See: Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, "Safe Motherhood: Preventing Pregnancy-Related Illness and Death," CDC, Atlanta, 2001; Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, "Safe Maternal Mortality -- United States, 1982-1996," CDC, Atlanta, 1998; M. McCarthy, "US Maternal Death Rates Are on the Rise," Lancet 348 (1996); among many others.)  In contrast to those who would suggest or imply that the risk of abortion is equal to that of carrying a pregnancy to term, I refer you to data from the Alan Guttmacher Institute (2005; see also, Rock & Jones, 2003; Paul et al., 1999), which places the current death rate from legal abortion at all stages of gestation at 0.6 per 100,000 procedures, or approximately ten to eleven times safer than carrying a pregnancy to term. 
 
An unknown percentage of women will suffer painful chronic conditions as a result of pregnancy or birth, possible organ loss, loss of fertility due to hysterectomy following problematic Cesarean section, limited subsequent parity in the event of an "uncomplicated" Cesarean delivery (Declercq et al 2002).  [Cesarean births are documented at just under 30% in 2003 and are now estimated at nearly 40% of all births in the U.S. (Hamilton et al 2005; NCHS 2005); parity will be limited in the future because fewer physicians are willing to risk vaginal births after Cesarean and, while there is debate about where to draw the line, most obstetricians acknowledge there is a limit to how many Cesarean surgeries any given woman should have (ACOG 1999; Caughey 1999; Liberman 2004).]  These are all conditions that will affect them long after the 40 weeks of pregnancy are finished and cannot necessarily be anticipated in advance.  Taken together with the mortality data above, it is safe to say that there is always some   increased risk to the life and health of the mother as a result of a pregnancy, though its extent is somewhat unquantifiable as a result of very limited data on maternal morbidity.  Now, even when the vast majority of women may suffer no ill effects from carrying a pregnancy to term, how and when do we insist that a woman take on these risks involuntarily?  If we reduce pregnancy to an exchange, how do we compensate her for a loss of a kidney or of her future fertility? 

(Without granting that surrogates are unexploited, this last  point is a key difference with paid surrogates, who typically consider their reproductive activities in building their own families complete before becoming a surrogate.  And here we must acknowledge the work of  NYU's own Kiley Kraskouskas.) 

Works Cited

Alan Guttmacher Institute. 2005.  “Get ‘In the Know’: 20 Questions About Pregnancy, Contraception and Abortion.” http://www.agi-usa.org/in-the-know/index.html Accessed December 6, 2005.

American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. 1999.  “Vaginal birth after previous cesarean.” ACOG Practice Bulletin 5. Washington, DC: ACOG.

Caughey AB; TD Shipp; JT Repke; CM Zelop; A Cohen, and E Lieberman. 1999. “Rate of uterine rupture during a trial of labor in women with one or two prior cesarean deliveries.” American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology. 181:872– 6.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. 2001. "Safe Motherhood: Preventing Pregnancy-Related Illness and Death." Atlanta: CDC.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. 1998.  "Safe Maternal Mortality -- United States, 1982- 1996."  Atlanta: CDC.

Declercq, E; C Sakala; MP Corry; S Applebaum; and P Risher. 2002.  Listening to Mothers: Report of the First National U.S. Survey of Women’s Childbearing Experiences.  New York: Maternity Care Association.

Duster, T. 1990. Backdoor to Eugenics.  New York: Routledge.

Gold, RB; SK Henshaw; and LD Lindberg. 1990. Abortion and Women's Health: A Turning Point for America? New York: AGI.

Hamilton, BE; JA Martin; and PD Sutton. 2005. “Births: Preliminary Data for 2003.”  www.cdc.gov/nchs.  Accessed December 6, 2005.

Kraskouskas, K. 2004.  Personal Communication.

Liberman, E; EK Ernst; JP Rooks; S Stapleton; and B Flamm. 2004.  “Results of the National Study of Vaginal Birth After Cesarean in Birth Centers.”  Obstetrics & Gynecology. 104:933-942.

McCarthy, M. 1996. "US Maternal Death Rates Are on the Rise." Lancet 348: 394.

National Center for Health Statistics. 2005. “QuickStats: Total and Primary Cesarean Rate and Vaginal Birth After Previous Cesarean (VBAC) Rate - United States, 1989-2003.” http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/mm5402a5.htm Accessed December 6, 2005.

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Michael Armato, Ph.D. Candidate, Department of Sociology, NYU:

 

Hello everyone.  After reading Dalton’s Op-Ed, “A Man’s Right to

Choose,” from yesterday’s Times.  I feel obligated to publicly disagree

with Dalton on a number of issues. 

 

Dalton’s essay seems to hinge on the following issue: “Why should a

woman be able to end a pregnancy that she knew was a possibility of

consensual sex?  Why couldn’t I make the same claim—that I am going to

keep the baby regardless of whether she wants it or not?”  My first

response is because pregnancy is not separate from her; it’s part of her

body.  But beyond that, the logic of this argument seems to me to be in

line with the logic of those (typically men, but often enough women)

who, when a woman claims she’s been raped or sexually assaulted, cry

foul on the grounds that she shouldn’t have been alone with him in his

room/apartment at such and such a time of night.  Forget it if she

actually had gone up to a man’s place with plans of having sex.  The

logic is one in which once a woman gives any consent at all (and

oftentimes it’s not clear she gave it), she loses the ability to change

her mind, retract her consent, and, heaven forbid, actually keep control

of her body.  Dalton’s hope is that, with the pregnancy situation he

describes, once a woman consents to having sex with a man, all bets are

off.  He wants her to forgo future claims to her body.  What’s also

troubling is that he hints at his friend’s “parallel but reverse”

situation.  I think this is a danger of the logic he’s employed.  And by

citing this example, he comes just short of saying that perhaps men

should be able to force women to have an abortion if they don’t want to

be a father.  If that is the case, then this is “procreative slavery,”

as Judith Lorber points out in her response in the Times.

 

Dalton also writes, “Pro-choice advocates argue that the debate is

really about a woman's control over her body.  Hence my lack of rights

to have any say in whether my seed comes to fruition.”  The seed

metaphor, though common, is inaccurate.  Seeds need nutrients from the

soil, but they are complete in terms of their DNA.  Dalton’s sperm (or

any other man’s) is not.  But by using the metaphor of a seed, he

employs a rhetorical slight of hand that reduces women to a vessel,

merely something that helps the baby grow.  Were this the case, I would

still support a woman’s right to choose to abort or keep a baby because

it is her body that has to go through the pregnancy process.  But this

is not the case.  Women provide half the genetic material (and all the

work) needed to produce a healthy newborn.  Also, the seed metaphor,

especially when phrased as “my seed,” smuggles in not only the notion

that the fetus is separate from the woman, but another common notion:

the fetus as actually belonging to the man, despite the fact that it’s

housed” in and intimately connected with a woman’s body.  So,

biological language aside, it’s clear that the seed metaphor has very

real political significance. 

 

Dalton also justifies some of his claims on the grounds that most

Americans believe things that loosely relate to his position (fetus

isn’t entirely distinct, but it’s not entirely the mother either;

husbands, by law, should be notified of wives’ abortions).  But just

because most Americans believe something doesn’t make it right.  What

people believe in the aggregate is the outcome of complex historical

processes.  If anything, especially given the history of women’s bodies

and the law and women’s relations with men in the private sphere, what

most people believe in the aggregate lags behind the more progressive

developments of recent decades.  After all, I suspect that at various

points in American history the majority of Americans thought slavery was

just, women shouldn’t be allowed to own property or vote, husbands were

entitled to sex from their wives on demand, and the like.  That’s why

activists have struggled so hard to fight for various rights. 

 

Finally, on a personal note, I am sincerely sorry that Dalton had to go

through what I can only imagine is a very difficult and painful

situation.  But I suspect this was equally difficult for the woman

involved and perhaps more so as she was the one who had to go through

the abortion procedure.  And I’m troubled because the tone of his piece

is at best dismissive of and is at times closer to being hostile toward

women: “Otherwise, don’t expect anything more of me than a few million

sperm.”  Women as agents are absent, aside from the one who wouldn’t

listen to him and instead chose to abort.  When he writes that his

desire for fatherhood was fulfilled, it was “by two wonderful children,”

not the woman who carried them to term and co-cares for them now.  His

comment that “…those forty weeks of pregnancy—as intense as they may

be—are merely a small fraction of a lifetime commitment to that child”

seems to swipe away an entire array of potential short- and long-term

health issues for women.  Perhaps this is an outcome of the NY Times

editorial process.  But if not, I would urge Dalton, and all men, to

rethink our personal sense of entitlement to women’s bodies.  After all,

the personal is political for us as well. 

 

regards,

Michael Armato